Break-down or Break-through
with Your #1 Relationship?
Hey there,
I imagine you’re here because something is not working in your #1 relationship and…
A) you’re not quite sure why
B) you’re not sure what to do
or
C) you know you need help
Is this true?
If not, don’t worry about reading what comes next.
But.
If you’re having a hard time and looking for a break-through with your #1 relationship right now…
[Think: your partner or spouse, your boss, you’re co-founder or business partner, someone you manage, a family member, a good friend…]
Then you’re in the right place.
Because once upon a time that was me…
My relationship happened to be a romantic one.
But, as it turned out, that was only the tip of the iceberg.
[More on that later..]
The #1 relationship
that rocked my world
I won’t get into all the specifics of my #1 relationship at the time, but here were some of the things I felt…
- I found it hard to say what I was *actually* thinking and feeling.
- I didn’t share things. I was afraid how my #1 would perceive me.
- I had difficulty understanding and articulating my boundaries.
- I regularly avoided communicating things because I thought it would turn into conflict or complicate our relationship.
- I easily got stuck in my head, endlessly over-thinking things.
Then one day, here’s the question that hit me [hard]:
Why is it, that I can talk to pretty much anyone about anything… except for the person I’m supposed to be the closest to?
The bad news: that wasn’t even the hardest reality for me to swallow.
[Remember: my significant other was only the tip of the iceberg…]
But after our break-up, I hit my emotional rock bottom.
Want to know what I learned?
Emotional Rock Bottom +
Emotional Unlock
Hitting emotional rock bottom was extremely hard. I really didn’t know what to do.
I saw myself as a great communicator. Remember, outside my relationship, I could talk to pretty much anyone about anything…
I felt whatever needed to change wasn’t my responsibility. Once my significant other changed, things would be better.
But, by this time, I knew something had to change.
And the only change I could control was my own.
I spent endless hours wandering through relationship-related articles and self-help videos trying to find my way to a better place.
I filled notebooks and Google docs with thoughts and feelings that were taking up space in my mind.
And then one day I realized…
that my *biggest* challenge was being afraid to let down the people that I was the closest to.
Turns out, I wasn’t just afraid of rocking the boat with my significant other.
I was also afraid of rocking the relationship with my parents, my sister, my business partner, our colleagues… even close friends.
Welcome to the beginning of the rest of my iceberg.
And welcome to the beginning of my next-level break-through.
How Openness + Honesty
Changed My Life
I shared with you earlier that I found it hard to say what I was *actually* thinking and feeling, I held so much back, I was a massive over-thinker…
I first experienced this in my #1 relationship.
And then realized I experienced this in most of my important relationships.
But the day that I started to be more open and honest… was the day that my relationships [and my life] changed.
Unfortunately, it took a loooooong time, some really hard relationships, and a lot of wandering… and luck… for me to find my way.
Plus it was a pretty lonely journey.
But the beauty of letting go of the parts I thought I needed to hide…
The beauty of being more open, more honest, and more direct…
Meant I was less confused and had more clarity.
I felt more confident. It was easier to collaborate with others. I unlocked a new level of depth in my relationships.
And when I started to share this story with friends…
I found a lot of people who were challenged by or struggling with an important relationship in their life.
It made me wonder, why do we hide?
Supporting Others to
Break-Through
After seeing change in my #1 relationship… and what new possibilities opened up for me…
I wanted to support others to also experience their version of this too.
So I designed a series of exercises that would help others to exercise their most important communication and relationship muscles.
And the results were phenomenal.
Then, over time, what began as a “Mastery of Communication” [or ‘MasterCom’] experiment with a few friends…
Turned into break-throughs for 100+ people from 17 different countries.
Folks across a range of professional pursuits benefited:
Entrepreneurs and start-up founders. Engineers and educators. Coaches and consultants. People managers and marketers.
Some experienced break-through in their professional lives. Others in their personal lives. And sometimes, both.
But don’t just take my word for it…
“MasterCom not only improved my own communication skills, but also for those closest to me. Open, honest, and calm conversations are infectious, and the people around me (my friends, my business partner, my boyfriend) couldn’t help but reciprocate communicating like this.”
—Katie, Entrepreneur & Former International Educator
“I have gone through dozens of workshops on communication, empathy, mindfulness, including some with the stamps of approval from top Fortune 500 companies. Still, MasterCom offered me something that none of those brand name programs talked about.”
—Bel, Co-Founder & COO
“I originally joined MasterCom for professional reasons. I didn’t expect it to influence me in such a personal way. MasterCom not only helped me to improve the way I communicate with others, but also helped me to improve the way I think. I discovered new things and saw my colleagues in new ways. I also discovered a new “me” at the bottom of my heart.”
—Ying, NYU Shanghai; Former VP, Forbes 30U30
“Before MasterCom, I wasn’t sure that creating communication habits was possible. In just 28 days, by focusing on my “communication,” I found my music again and the rhythm of confidence and positivity from my past was stronger than before. This program has been far more helpful than even my best therapist.“
—Allison, Educator, Artist, & Constant Work in Progress
“MasterCom gave me a space where I always felt safe and not judged, no matter how difficult the questions that were asked. Why did I not think to work on communication and how communication could improve my relationships sooner? At first, I was skeptical, but I absolutely loved it.”
—Jenn, Design Strategist, Artist
“MasterCom (and the Bounce Conversation Framework) saved our relationship. And we continue the practice we started in MasterCom even today.”
—Kristina & Michael, Implementation Specialist; Physical Therapist & Yoga Anatomy Teacher
"The way we all approach communication is a bit like plumbing in a house. We only think about it when there's a leak. And once it's fixed, we forget about it.
But maybe the plumbing of the whole house needs to be improved. MasterCom allowed me to fix the plumbing in my house, not just a leak."
—Jeff, Engineer, Designer, Entrepreneur, Musician
“We often think about communication as this thing we do with other people. And, I think of myself as quite a good communicator with others. Thanks to MasterCom, I practiced looking at myself in a more objective way and being kinder to myself.”
—Helena, Innovation Coordinator & Community Organizer
“I was drawn to MasterCom for its novel perspective on how we interact with each other. And as a professional communicator, I love to communicate with people, I just don’t love small talk. MasterCom helped me to be much more conscious of how asking meaningful questions can change the dynamics of my personal and my professional conversations.”
—Luke, Professional Communicator
“The biggest takeaway I was not expecting from this program was learning how to be more honest and communicate better with myself. Rather than putting myself down, how could I speak up for myself? How could I set better boundaries? More and more, I’ve also seen the importance of being around people who ask good and necessary questions, especially the questions that are hard or uncomfortable to ask.”
—Angela, Media Production Professional
“Months after our leadership team participated in MasterCom for Team Leaders, we continue to reap the benefits of the program. Why aren’t more corporate leadership programs like this one?”
—Marco, SVP Guinness World Records
“I saw MasterCom as a good way to teach my partner some of the things that I know on a more level playing field. A non-biased program with content that I buy into it, but he can hear it from sources that aren’t me. He got really into it. Way more so than I actually expected. And started to think and talk in a way that he never did before.”
—Erin, Group Therapy Facilitator
“Going into MasterCom, I felt my biggest communication challenge was to myself. Throughout the program, I was surprised that learning about communicating with others helped me to communicate better with myself. By being kinder to others I learned to accept my situation. Oh, and I loved the Bounce practices.
"MasterCom was like having a personal coach that pushes you to exercise your communication fitness.”
—Tika, Leadership Development
"I’ve known for a while that the relationships I have with others will only ever be as good as the one that I have with myself. It’s what months of therapy have taught me.
"MasterCom showed me that by being myself, being more vulnerable, recognizing moments for powerful questions and actually asking them, I could change my relationships for the better."
—Xueying, Journalist
“I believe that MasterCom has helped me make some lasting changes in my life. I have better behavior, am a better communicator, and have stronger relationships. Any course that provides a permanent upgrade to something so fundamentally important is worth taking.”
—Guy, 4x Founder & CEO
“I’m very good at seeing how others tell unhelpful stories about themselves, to themselves. But I can fall into the same trap too. MasterCom empowered me to listen to the voices in my head and learn from their wisdom. Thanks to MasterCom, I already feel the needle moving in my journey of self-acceptance.”
—Chrislyn, Brand & Innovation Director
Tired of Communication
Being So HARD?
I can imagine you’re tired of communication being so hard…
Of the stress, the strain, the challenge, the difficulty, the uncertainty, the anxiety, the confusion that comes from your #1 most important relationship…
And I know it’s not easy to face alone.
Would you like some support?
If you take 5 minutes to share a bit of what’s going on…
I’ll offer you 20-minutes of my time to help you get some relationship clarity.
AND, we’ll make sure you walk away with one key thing to do to improve that relationship.
TBD
After this month of intensive letter writing, I realized a couple of things that I needed to share with two of the most important people in my life… my parents.
In other words, high on the list of important people that I was afraid to let down.
And while I won’t tell you that whole story today, I will say the conversations we had that Thanksgiving Day was the first time I truly spoke my truth, said the hard things in a clear and kind way, and then listened too.
That day my life changed forever.
Because unless we take the time…
not just to watch the videos…
not just to read the articles…
not just to go to the events, the workshops…
not just to write in our journals, or to our friends…
But to do the hard work…
We’ll only ever stay here.
We won’t have the opportunity to actually overcome our communication challenges.
Because it’s not a one-time thing.
It takes practice.
It takes every day action.
If we want to see real results.
If we want to catalyze lasting change.
We have to do the work.
But the work can be hard to do alone.
It can be hard to not know where to start.
And that’s why I designed MasterCom…
The program I wish I had all those years ago when I was going at it alone.
You don’t have to do this alone.
And at the core of it…
Do you wish that you felt confident in your ability to communicate, to effectively collaborate, and have meaningful connection with the people in your life?
—
Do you wish that you felt confident in your ability to communicate and effectively collaborate with those around you?
Or perhaps you’re looking for deeper, more meaningful connection with the people in your life?
TBD
After this month of intensive letter writing, I realized a couple of things that I needed to share with two of the most important people in my life [that I was afraid to let down]… my parents.
And while I won’t tell you that whole story today, I will say the conversations we had that Thanksgiving Day… changed my life forever.
Because unless we take the time…
not just to watch the videos…
not just to read the articles…
not just to go to the events, the workshops…
not just to write in our journals, or to our friends…
But to do the hard work…
We’ll only ever stay here.
We won’t have the opportunity to actually overcome our communication challenges.
Because it’s not a one-time thing.
It takes practice.
It takes every day action.
If we want to see real results.
If we want to catalyze lasting change.
We have to do the work.
But the work can be hard to do alone.
It can be hard to not know where to start.
And that’s why I designed MasterCom…
The program I wish I had all those years ago when I was going at it alone.
You don’t have to do this alone.
And at the core of it…
Do you wish that you felt confident in your ability to communicate, to effectively collaborate, and have meaningful connection with the people in your life?
—
Do you wish that you felt confident in your ability to communicate and effectively collaborate with those around you?
Or perhaps you’re looking for deeper, more meaningful connection with the people in your life?
So as we come to the end of this page, here's the bottom line...
I’d like to help you hear things you may not have heard before, see things you haven’t seen on your own, and say things you haven’t been able to say (or ask) before.
I hope you’ll take advantage of one of the options below today.
Here’s how I can help…
Option 1: Bounce
Can I help you think better about a relationship, a situation, or decision that matters to you?
You'll be surprised how far we can get in 20 minutes!
Option 2: Tune-Up
Can I help you identify the one thing to improve your most important relationship(s)?
3 exercises + a free 1-on-1 conversation with me
Option 3: MasterCom
Can I help you make a massive difference in your relationships in one month?
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